When One Door Closes…

Let’s talk about endings.

I like to think we get to write our own endings. We have the power to choose how we move through our lives and where we end up when it’s time to go. Ideally, we have the support of friends and family to help us make those choices a reality.

Sometimes, though, our endings get stolen from us. Illness, sudden death, or other circumstances can take away that choice. I recently had someone very near and dear to me pass away from cancer. Within that grief, I recognized that it’s okay to grieve for both the person and for the ending that they didn’t get to choose for themselves.

Pause and Reflect

When I think about the possibility of that choice getting taken away from me, I can’t help but look at the way I’m living my life now. 

Am I staying present?

Am I cherishing the little things?

Am I expressing myself fully and authentically?

Am I allowing people to really know me?

Am I allowing people to support me?

And then I think about the opportunity to actually do those things. 

Which opportunities am I grabbing onto with both hands?

Which ones am I creating for myself?

Opening the Next Door Myself

It’s important for me to create my own opportunities.

If you look at the most successful people, they created their own opportunities. They embodied who they wanted to be before they got there. 

“I was famous before you knew me.”

I’m the same way. I'm not going to sit and wait for someone to notice what I'm doing. I'm going to show up fully for myself. That means seeking appropriate opportunities, and not taking everything that comes my way. It also means I'm out there. I'm giving the opportunities to others to experience my art. It means I know who I am and I'm just letting y'all catch up.

I’ve had to hide for a long time, but not anymore. I’m ready for you all to get to know me, support me and understand that I’ve been here. I’ve been doing the damn thing. And I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.